We get told out here not to give any money to children begging because it doesn’t help them and stops their parents from sending them to school as they will continue to think that the children are more useful out begging. You quickly get used to saying ‘No sorry’ as a default response to anyone asking for anything.
On the Saturday night when we were at the night market, we had finished eating and were just about to get into the tuk tuk when a little girl grabbed me. She was no more than 10 years old and was holding a baby. She was saying I don’t want money, just some food. I said no sorry as per usual. She wouldn’t let go of me and kept asking and I just told her sorry again and got in the tuk tuk where my friends were waiting. She looked so upset and shouted ‘sorry is not food’ at me! I felt horrible at that point! It would have taken a few minutes for me to buy her something to eat and I could have asked my friends to wait. It would only have cost a few dollars. I couldn’t stop thinking about her the whole way home. You see quite a lot of young children here wandering around alone going through bins for food. The 1st time I saw it, I was pretty shocked! Just that evening at dinner, a young girl has asked one of my friends to pass her the bin from under our table. We weren’t sure what she wanted, but as soon as she got it, she started searching through it looking for food. Its heartbreaking! The next day, I was still thinking about the girl and wishing I could go back in time and buy her something. We were planning to go back to the night market for dinner that night so I was hoping I would bump into her again.
We went back, and after dinner, we were walking back to the main road when a young boy stopped me and said please miss I don’t want money, just some food. I knew I couldn’t say no after the events the night before so I asked him what food he would like and he said he would take me to the mini mart and he could get something from there. I agreed to go with him and he was holding on tightly to me, maybe scared I would change my mind.
We went into the shop and he pointed to a tub of baby milk and said he needs it for his little sister. It was $25! I told him sorry that is too much! I was expecting to buy him some crisps or biscuits for a few dollars, not to spend $25! That’s a lot of money here. I have no idea how much baby milk normally costs but it seemed very expensive. There was a smaller tub for $7 so I asked him if that was ok and he said yes so I agreed to buy it.
Meanwhile my roommate came in. She had been stopped by another young boy carrying a baby and he also needed food for the baby so she had come in with him. He was also asking for the big expensive tub, but the brand he wanted didn’t come in a smaller size and he was insisting that was the one he needed as the others were different although his English wasn’t good enough to explain why. The shopkeeper came over to help my friend and she was also explaining that he one he was pointing to was of different quality. She told him sorry though, it was too expensive. But she agreed to buy the smaller one. I thought it was strange that the children were asking for such expensive items, I was hoping they weren’t getting it just to resell it but I felt like I had to give them the benefit of the doubt. I went to pay and was sure that the shop keeper would warn me if the children didn’t genuinely need the milk but she didn’t say anything so I thought it must be ok. We left the shop, and I saw even more children outside and an older lady holding a baby all asking people for food. I decided to do some research when I got home.
I got home and checked online and it turns out that it was all a scam! And the shop are actually involved in the scam. They over inflate the price of the baby milk, and then the children try to get tourists to feel sorry for them and buy it. As soon as you buy it and leave, the children return the milk to the shop and they split the difference between what it should be worth and what they made you pay for it. I was quite angry when I found out it was a scam! I felt like an idiot for falling for it. At least I only lost $7 and not $25! There must have been a reason the girl was so upset the night before though. Maybe they’re doing this scam out of sheer desperation. Or working for someone who will beat them if they don’t bring back enough money. I wish I knew their story. On the website where people were talking about it, there were people saying they’ll never give to anyone again! I guess that’s how it makes people feel. When you get stung from showing some concern for someone, its easy to feel like you need to be tougher and not let yourself feel compassion for the next person you see suffering so it doesn’t happen again. I hope I never get like that though. Maybe I’ll question them more next time, but I hope I can continue to let my heart break for the people I see here hungry or suffering and give whenever I’m able to.